he said he loves me after a month

Guys usually have a different opinion of loving someone versus being in love than women do. He's not ready to say it. Then after 5 months he left her and we got back together. Share. That broke me cause I still here, believing his action but his words said no? To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account. He said there’s a 80 percent chance he won’t come back after this break up. He takes me out to dinner every time we're together, and he spoils me with flowers and lots of affection. He didn’t feel the spark. I loved him from the start and still today, but he doesn't. Uh yeah, it's a little too soon. I agree, when you know there's something special going on, you might think "its too soon to say it", but you are unlikely to be freaked by it. I don't think it's a massive problem at all! I don't think it is a massive problem either. If he's only been divorced 3m, and thinks he's in love with you already, I think it has the potential to be a bit dangerous.But he might just be too keen.Stay wary - don't fall for the charm offensive - and if he does anything that makes you feel uncomfortable and then apologises for it, back off and run away. If he said he loves you in the midst of experiencing an orgasm or while having breakfast those are entirely two different things. A month is no time at all (unless you're 15).I would also worry about somebody having so much time available that they are free to see me all the time when we've only just met. I don't think I've ever been in a relationship where it's taken them much longer than that to declare love. After a month of online dating, he told me to love me. So me and this guy have been seeing each other for about 3 months, maybe a little longer. If a guy loves you, he will continue to court you weeks, months and years after he’s said he loves you. But he looked me in the eye when he said it. If he has cheated on you, then it might be a sign that he isn’t in love with you. He was the one who told me he was my true love, he was the one who would tell me that I was stuck with him for at least 50 more years, and all that corny lovey dovey stuff. 1. DP professed his love for me very quickly (date 3 I think? For his birthday last month, I signed the card “love”. I was shocked and didn't know what to do, so I said I loved him too. He broke up with me on our 6 months anniversary. I was very surprised but also felt special so I said it back. We have fooled around, but have never slept together. “The former could be a statement describing a feeling he feels in the moment while the latter is something said after giving it some thought,” says Darné. He has dated a few women after her death & before me but has had no real sparks until me he says. to have become a bit obsessed with this house? We are very compatible and I feel like we’ve know each other for years every time we hang out. He hasn’t said the “L” word at all yet. Anonymous. A month after that he asked me to go for a drink when he is in my state next, and I very politely declined. He said since he can’t tell me he loves me after 6 months he doesn’t think it goes anywhere. If You're Not Saying 'I Love You' After Six Months, Move On. ), and while I was a bit at the time it's now 3 years later and we're getting married. Just because he's not saying it now doesn't mean he'll never say it. Good luck! He still hasn't said I love you after 6 months? He does talk about me … He lives on the other side of the country. However, he's also extremely insecure. Unlike yours my relationship lasted 6 months, and during last 2 months when I had so much stress at work and family illnesses to deal with we were communicating OK and sex was still amazing. We had been in the same social circle for about 2 years so he knew some stuff about me, but I wouldn't have said he knew me well. Read this List of Red Flags If ANYTHING else resonates at all you need to distance yourself. I mean idk its different for everyone. I also discovered many of his huge lies. My ex boyfriend has told me he loves me and that he didn’t say it to freak me out, he just wanted to express it. If that wasn't there after a month I'd probably finish the relationship as it would be like going out with my brother or a casual friend. 0 0. With years of marriage under our belts we've never had any doubts. This is an emergency! I said it back because I really meant it. He says he has zero passion or connection to me and he is leaving forever and will NEVER love me again and he has been faking it. This was after we’ve met up and had a few text conversations. I think you should acknowledge he has said it but tell him you are not there yet. But in general, if you say, “I love you,” before dating for three to six months, you could be mistaking love for something else. When he went to search it "how to tell someone you love them" was already on Google. Your blooming relationship finally came to an end. Told me his is inlove with me. He came to me a month before and said he was sad but wouldn’t say why – I thought because of new life stresses and because he had a bad housing situation. http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=As... my bf/husband/exhusband said it 2 weeks after we were dateing and we been on and off for 6 years usaly after a month u tend to know eachother fairly well well you should anyways yes it is possible that he may love you. I am very confused he is dating 3 women right now, and telling me he still is in love with me and thinks about me everyday. Even if he feels like he’s totally in love with you and only you, he will hesitate when it comes to saying these words because either it makes him feel uncomfortable, or he believes that actions speak louder than words. I met him the next day. Still have questions? After all if I'm not in love with someone why would I be spending loads of time with someone and sleeping with them?Doesn't mean I'll love them forever, but that at that point I am in love with them. There have been two occasions when I've had it said to me ... it was too early, but I knew it wasn't a lie. Someone who still claims to be in love after two or three months is more believable than someone who says it for the first time. I'd say approach with caution, but less because of him saying 'I love you' after a month than him being 3 months out of a divorce. “I’m a big believer in time. We were on the phone really late, both of us pretty much dozing off and I head him say “I love you.” I asked him to repeat himslef and he said it again. Should i believe him? He is no longer that loving boyfriend, but an uncaring ex.. He loved what he did know. For most people yes...but then what about that whole love at first sight thing. Turns out he thinks you're the best he can do. I’m female 59 he’s male 56. None of them ever turned out to be abusive, just - inexplicably in my view - keen.I expect that like SGB says, it was more an expression of "thanks for the shag" or "please shag me," but it was nice at the time and not indicative of any lurking nastiness whatsoever.I think the red flag here is your feelings. I just had to come to terms with him confusing love with infatution. He told me not to contact his cell he will give me the new number cause he is being in investigated and he don’t want me to get hurt LIES. 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